I'm learning five languages at once: Spanish, German, Greek, Russian, and Hebrew. Spanish is easy because I've grown up around Spanish-speaking people. German is surprisingly easy because it's very similar to English. Greek is a bit tougher, but since I've studied one of the ancient forms of Greek in college, I could get by. Russian, believe it or not, is not all that hard. The one thing that makes learning these languages doable is knowing the sounds of each alphabet.
Hebrew, on the other hand, has been the hardest language for me to learn -- it's been so hard that I considered giving up on it. The alphabets look nothing like Latin alphabets, and the vowels are nearly absent. It's almost as if the alphabet is all consonants, and few of those consonants could make a vowel sound depending on how the letter is used. Imagine that the letter "V" could sometimes be pronounced as "O." All the letters are capitals, so there are no small forms of a letter. Few letters have two different forms depending on their location in a word. Plus, you read Hebrew from right to left, instead of left to right -- which is great for left-handed people.
So, you feel my pain yet? You could see why I almost gave up on learning this language. I saw, however, that my mistake was approaching this language the same way that I've approached the other languages. The Hebrew language is in a different family than Spanish, German, Russian, and Greek. Since Hebrew was so different than the other languages, it would make sense that I should approach this language differently. Then I started seeing certain patterns in this language that had actually encouraged me to keep learning it. I would not have seen these patterns had I not decided to look at this language through a different set of eyes.
You see, your problems in life are like different languages. Many problems are very similar and you could approach those problems the same way. But then you have unique problems, which are problems that you have to take a completely different approach to. Maybe many of your problems were money-related, but then you have that one problem that doesn't seem to go away with money. Maybe many of your problems were diet-related, but then you have that one problem that doesn't seem to go away no matter how many vitamins, herbs, oils, and drugs you consume.
In our society, it's very, very, VERY common to throw things at problems. Got back issues? Take this. Don't have enough energy? Take this. Your child can't focus in school? Give him this. You daughter has acne? Give her this. Have pain here? Do this. Have pain there? Do that? But what if you have a problem that doesn't go away no matter what you take or do? Instead of giving up, try approaching that problem differently. Maybe this unique problem requires a unique solution. Or in other words, whatever you've done to solve your other problems, don't do that same thing with this new problem.
If I were to have a compelling argument against using robots in the workplace, it would be that all robots approach situations according to how they were programmed. No matter how good you think your robot is, the robot is still limited to what it could do. Robots are not, and cannot, be designed to respond to unique situations. Unique situations are those that are unexpected and nobody is prepared for them. When unique situations arise, there is only one thing you could do to handle them: use an actual HUMAN. A HUMAN could make independent decisions, not robots. To make a completely autonomous robot would put humans on the same level as God.
In the same way, you are usually "programmed" to respond to all situations the same way. But all your problems cannot be solved this way. Sometimes, you have to take a completely different approach to solving your issues. You just need to be willing to accept that maybe, just maybe, you're going about your problems the wrong way. There is an answer, but you won't find it by doing the same things that you've done for your other problems.
I wanted to make money, yet be around my family -- and unfortunately, trying to accomplish this by finding a job had proven to be difficult. Almost every "job" that I had took significant amount of time from my family. Even when my wife was working, she was gone for many hours during the week. So, the kids got to see me very often, but wouldn't see her that often. I didn't want that, but I didn't want the kids to not see me either. There had to be a way for the kids to see their parents very consistently that doesn't require unemployment.
And yet...it actually took just that: unemployment. That is, both my wife and I had to stop looking for employment and start looking for alternative ways to make money. Of course, ZUMBA twice a week has supplied us with some income through donations -- not much, but every little bit counts. Then I started the Body Challenge, which supplies some income. Then I started teaching more CPR classes, and I had my food delivery gig -- and all of these minor things had actually supplied us with enough income to live comfortably on. My family and I are almost always together, even to the point where I need a break sometimes! Many would say that we truly live a dream life, but this life wouldn't have happened had we not approached our issues differently.
See, there are answers out there for you. The big problem you have is that you're using the same method to solve most of your problems. Sometimes, it's not about having good credit. Sometimes, it's not about finding a good-paying job. Sometimes, it's not about going to bed earlier. Sometimes, it's not about taking more vacations. Sometimes, it's not about going to yoga class, or seeing a chiropractor, or listening to more self-help tapes. Sometimes, you need to do something completely different to solve your problems.
If you ever paid attention to the tool section at Lowe's, Home Depot, Ace Hardware, or some smaller mom-and-pop shops, you'd notice that there are multiple tools. Some tools such as screw drivers and socket wrenches could fix many things. But every now and then, you need a plunger to fix a clogged toilet. There is no tool in the world that could fix everything. In the same way, there is no one solution that could fix all your problems.
If you have a tough situation, don't give up because you're not making any progress. Just go at your situation differently. When everybody tells you the same thing, then listen to a different opinion. Six doctors tell you the same thing. But the seventh doctor told you something completely different. Five car mechanics gave you the same solution. The sixth car mechanic told you something else. All your friends suggested doing one thing. But a complete stranger suggested something else. When everybody is going one way, consider going the other way -- that way may be the answer to your problems.
If you ever tried to break a bad habit, you'd notice that you can't simply "wean" yourself off that habit. You could wean yourself ON a new habit, but you can't wean yourself off it. With breaking a habit, it's all or nothing: either you quit altogether or you keep practicing that habit.
If you've been struggling with losing weight, then gaining it, and losing it again, then you know that the idea of "weaning" doesn't work. Having a "little bit of" this, that, and the other doesn't help you break the bad habit of drinking too much alcohol and eating too many doughnuts. For many of us, just having one is enough to set us back. You put in a lot of hard work into losing weight, but once you eat that one, tiny piece of candy, that was all it took to wreck everything.
True, lasting change sometimes take radical action. Sometimes, you just have to cut something out completely. Sometimes, you just have to burn that bridge. Sometimes, you just have to say "Enough is enough!"
Some of you might be familiar with a passage in the Bible about cutting off parts of your body if you're serious about getting to heaven. Jesus told his disciples that if your hand, foot, eye, etc., causes you to sin, then cut it off and toss it away, because it's better to get into heaven disabled than to go to hell with all your body parts. Obviously, cutting off a hand or foot is not going to keep you from doing bad things, but the point was that if someone was serious about heaven, they would make radical changes in their lives.
We are accustomed to making our cake and eating it, too. We don't like the idea of making any radical sacrifices. We want one thing, but we're not willing to make serious changes to get it. We want this body, go to this place, do this, that, and the other, but we don't want to make any radical changes.
If you wanted to spend more time with your children, would you be willing to leave your career for it?
If you wanted to lose weight, would you be willing to permanently abstain from alcohol?
If you want to have more peace in your life, would you be willing to get rid of certain people in your life?
Having goals come with sacrifices, and those sacrifices might be radical. If you haven't reached your goal yet, then your sacrifices haven't been radical enough. If you've been struggling with a certain addiction for years, then you haven't made a radical change. If after 20 years you're still going through the same ol' same ol', then it's time to make some radical changes.
Here's the good news about radical changes: they work! Making those changes aren't necessarily easy, but they work. The reason they work is because they would open your eyes to what you COULD be, where you COULD go, how life COULD be lived. You would finally see the other side of the picture and understand that you don't have to struggle with your problems any longer. You could finally be free to accomplish whatever you want to, but you FIRST must make that radical change.
Listen, I know what it's like to struggle with something for YEARS. This struggle keeps you in a prison and limits how you could live your life. The only thing that is really keeping you in this prison is...you. If you want to be free, then you need to make some radical changes in your life.
After you make some serious sacrifices, it would feel good at first, and then later you start regretting it. Don't turn back! Remember the feeling you had when you finally felt free, and remember how badly you felt when you were trapped in your prison. Do you want to feel badly again? Do you want to be slumped over your couch feeling sorry for yourself? Do you want to hit that bottle while listening to heart-break songs? Do you want to start snorting that coke and feel like dirt afterwards? Or do you want to feel as if a weight has been lifted off your shoulders? If you want that feeling, then you know what you need to do -- and weaning yourself off is not the answer.
If you want to know what a radical change looks like, try having your doctor tell you that you have a 98-percent chance of getting brain cancer unless you start changing your life. After hearing those words, you'd go straight home and throw out all the foods that are typically considered unhealthy. You'd join a gym, buy health magazines, quit smoking, quit alcohol, and participate in some marathons. That's radical.
Try having your college advisor tell you that if you don't maintain a 3.7 GPA, you would lose your scholarship. You would have to start taking out loans to pay $50,000 a year for college. You'd stop going to all those college parties and spend most of your time in the library. That's radical.
Try having a police officer pull you over and tell you that if you get one more speeding ticket, your license would be suspended -- and you work as a delivery driver. No license, no job, no income. You'll be traveling 35 mph everywhere you drive and you'd avoid the highway so that you won't be tempted to speed. That's radical!
Making a radical change in itself isn't hard. The hard part is simply deciding to do it. If you're tired of being tired, if you're sick of being sick, and if you're disgusted with feeling disgusting, then it's time to make a radical change. Don't ease your way through. Don't wean yourself off. Don't try to take things slowly. Just do it! It's all or nothing. If you want freedom, then make a run for it and don't look back.
Recently, I've taken an interest in brain anatomy. My studies so far have confirmed what I've always believed: the brain could do extraordinary things once you challenge it. I've read stories about beating autism, learning disabilities, and sexual habits by challenging the brain to do something that it's not used to.
Of course, these stories are all "underground," meaning that you won't hear them from mainstream medical media. You would always hear of some new (and very expensive) treatment for conditions such as dementia, stroke, learning disabilities, schizophrenia, etc., or some new drug that could "possibly" (key word) work some kind of magic. But you rarely (if ever) hear about people who "cured" themselves by simply challenging their brain.
One time while teaching CPR to a chiropractor, we started talking about unnecessary medical treatments that people go through. When someone experiences pain, they immediately rush to get drugs or surgery, thinking that their problems would be fixed. Little do such people know is that doing either is really taking a chance on your body: the surgery may fix you or permanently damage you, and the drug may relieve your pain or give you seizures.
Both the chiropractor and I agreed that in general, people don't like to go through the necessary pain for natural healing. Instead of suffering with weight-training and intense brain exercises, they would much rather go to the doctors and receive a quick, yet uncertain, solution.
Let me tell you, when you challenge yourself, it is NOT pleasant and it is very discouraging. When you don't see results soon enough, you would quickly believe that the "natural route" is useless and would run to the conventional route. But when you always go the easy route, you would eventually find that life is no longer pleasant. Instead of getting better, you would get worse and worse until you'd be forced to consider alternative routes.
Right now, I am learning THREE languages all at once: German, Spanish, and Greek. Learning these languages has been fun, but when it's time to put my learning to work, then I get discouraged! But I know that I can't stop my journey, because I know that I have never challenged myself in this way before. Of course I will get frustrated! My brain is just so used to speaking English that any attempts to learn another language would seem like a challenge. Sometimes, I question why even bother learning another language when I really don't need to??? But if I truly want to make my brain do things that it has never done before, I will continue on this journey until I complete it.
Challenges aren't pleasant, but they are rewarding.When you're able to do things that you've never done before, it feels good! The process of getting to that point is discouraging, and this is where many of us fail. We start the process, but then we turn back when the road gets too tough. Then we start lying to ourselves, thinking that there really is no point to this journey, that we are wasting our time, and that there is no other solution.
In my Body Sculpt Challenge program, my number one focus is to push people to do something that they've never done before. Yes, these people have already had a healthy diet and exercised on a regular basis. But I take it a few steps further. People are solving their neck and back pain, dropping those extra 10 pounds, clearing up their skin, fixing their gut, and getting stronger and leaner. Many of us who eat healthy and exercise on our own could only achieve so much until we get uncomfortable with doing more. But once someone pushes you to do even more, that is when you truly see results that you haven't seen before. Or in other words, when you CHALLENGE yourself to do something that you've never done before, you would see results that would make you lost for words.
So, the question is how willing are you to take a challenge that you've never taken before? How serious are you about fixing a long-term problem? What is it that you truly want to accomplish in this life? Things that are worth pursuing will come with intense challenges that you would have to go through. What if some painful back exercises is what you need to permanently fix your back? What if spending MONTHS (or even years) training your brain is what you need to do to fix your brain after having a stroke? What if giving up certain foods for 6 weeks would eventually cure you of [insert disease here]? Are you passionate enough to go through the pain of the challenge?
The next time you say, "I wish I could," I want you to add, "But I can't because I don't want the challenge." When you say that to yourself a few times, hopefully it would motivate you to say, "You know what, I'm sick of wishing for it. Let me just go for it!" Remember that if it doesn't challenge you, it won't change you.
It's easy to pursue anything as long as it comes easily to you. But if your dreams come with suffering, then you'd much rather dream about something else. If you're not willing to suffer for your dreams, then they aren't dreams worth chasing.
Previously, I wrote an article about the meaning of passion. The word "passion" originally had nothing to do with what you're excited about. Passion dealt with suffering. If you've grown up in church, you may have heard of the term, "the passion of Christ." In fact, Mel Gibson made a movie many years ago about the suffering of Jesus called "The Passion." The movie had nothing to do with warm and fuzzy feelings. It had lots of violence and blood! Passion, in this case, meant "suffering."
So, if you are "passionate" about something, then you should be willing to suffer for it. Otherwise, it's not really passion: it's just an interest.
Many people want to lose weight, get in shape, and improve their health. But when they see that there is some suffering involved (ex: doing exercises and changing bad habits), then they quickly fall away. It's more comfortable to just live however way you want to than to change your life for the better. Losing weight in this case is not a passion, but an interest.
Many people want to stop going to the doctor. They want to stop taking so many medications. They want to stop being sick all the time. But when they see how much suffering they have to do to get better, then being sick doesn't seem so bad. Getting better in this case is not a passion, but an interest.
Many people want to achieve this, achieve that, go here, go there, be this, be that, etc., etc. But once they find out how much they have to suffer for it, then they start to change their minds. They decided that settling is much less painful than pursuing a dream.
When I was still a physical education teacher, I asked a group of high school students about their career goals. After they told me their dream careers, I asked them how would they feel if they couldn't work in those fields. Most of them didn't seem bothered if they couldn't go into their "dream field." But after prodding a little deeper, I started to find out what some of them were truly passionate about. One girl who wanted to be a dentist told me that it would devastate her if she couldn't practice her music anymore. But if she couldn't be a dentist, she didn't seem to care.
One boy wanted to go into the military. I asked what if he couldn't do it. He kept listing different things that he could do in the military and eventually said, "There has to be something that I could do in the military." Even if he couldn't be a soldier, he wanted to be something in the military. I think he found what he was willing to suffer for.
When you get lost thinking about what to do with your life, just ask yourself what you're willing to suffer for. Most likely, that would be one of your life's callings.
Having a flexible schedule when I could take off work any time I want to and spend as much time with the kids as possible is what I am willing to suffer for. Financially speaking, I had definitely suffered! I suffered through the humiliation of asking my mother and my church for money. I suffered through not being able to pay my bills and getting sued by one of my creditors. My relationship with my father was tensed for a time, because he co-signed for one of my student loans and I couldn't pay those loans. The creditors were stressing him out and he felt as if I betrayed him. I suffered through the humiliation of putting only a few dollars of gas in my car hoping that it would get us through another couple of days. I suffered through simply being stressed and depressed because the savings were nearly depleted.
Thank the good Lord that all of that is behind me. I could have changed all of that by finding a full-time job (or several part-time jobs), having my wife go to work full-time, and throwing my kids in public school. We could have had everything that everybody else had. But because time with family was absolutely important, I was willing to suffer for it EVEN at the expense of somebody else. If North Carolina were to say that I couldn't homeschool my children anymore, I'd drop everything and move to another state -- something I would dread doing, but I would do it for my children.
So, what are YOU willing to suffer for? It's easy to have interests. But if those interests were in jeopardy, would you simply let them go or would you fight for them to the point of suffering?
If you came to me asking how to permanently take away your neck pain, what would you hope that I say? Take a certain herb or an essential oil? Maybe acupuncture? Maybe a massage? You'd hope that I give an easy solution, something that's quick and simple to do. What if I told you that you had to do neck exercises that would be quite painful to start with, but would gradually improve your neck pain? Would you be willing to do it or would you eventually opt for surgery -- which is very easy to do?
You could tell where a person stands by what he or she is willing to suffer for. What you SAY is nowhere nearly as important as what you are willing to GO THROUGH. If you are willing to make big sacrifices in your life, make significant changes in your schedule, and start doing things very differently, then you would know what you'd be willing to suffer for. But if you could easily get distracted from a goal, then it's probably something that you won't suffer for and you should probably stop pursuing that goal.
On a sheet of paper, write out all the things that you believe are important to you (not including your family). Then ask yourself which of those things would you suffer for. Cross off EVERYTHING that you won't suffer for. One of two things would happen: 1) you'd cross off everything from that list or (the more likely option) 2) everything would be crossed off but one, two, or three things. Whatever those things are should be the things you need to direct your energy to.
So, if you have a goal that you're not willing to suffer for, does this mean that you shouldn't pursue it? No, but it means that you don't need to pursue it now. You could pursue it when it's convenient to do so. Since you're not willing to suffer for it, then it's simply an interest, not a passion. Your passions (what you're willing to suffer for) takes the highest priorities. Everything else that you're just interested in takes the lowest priorities.
I'm the type of person who likes to "switch it up." I don't like doing the same thing over and over again, because then I would just get bored with it. But having said that, I do see the benefits of doing the same stuff over and over again, even to the point of boredom. In fact, being a "creature of habit" would guarantee you success much more quickly than being a person who needs to "switch it up."
There are three exercises that I do at home, and I do NOTHING else: pull-ups, push ups, and one-legged squats (which truly works the muscles around your ankle and knee joints better than double-legged squats do). I don't switch up anything. And yes, it gets boring. But this is what I'm doing: I'm making exercise a part of me. I'm building up a strong habit by doing the same stuff over and over again. If I keep switching it up, then I'd eventually stop what I'm doing because I would get too easily bored.
Here's another reason why I keep doing the same stuff: because I want to get BETTER and BETTER at it. If I could only do 10 pull-ups now, then I want to do 15 pull-ups later. If I could only do 40 push ups now, then maybe I could do 50 the next time. The more I keep doing the same stuff, the better I would get at it and the STRONGER I would become.
But let's say that I could only do 5 push ups on my toes and then got bored with push ups. So, I switch to doing chest flies and I could do about 20 of them with 10-lbs weights. Then I get bored with that and started doing tricep chair dips, and then got bored with that and started doing something else. Eventually, I would want to return to doing push ups again, and guess how many push ups I would be able to do on my toes? At best, just five. How is that? Because every time I switch my routines, I am starting from scratch. Even if the routine is working the same muscles as push ups, the new routine will not work those muscles the same way that push ups would. Every routine you switch to would work the same muscles differently and at different intensity levels.
Now if your goal is to simply stay physically active, then switch up all you want. But if you have a SPECIFIC goal, then switching up would be your downfall. You need to keep doing what you're doing over and over until you get better and better at it. Some of you noticed that I have quite a big chest -- I mean, my chest is not bodybuilder-quality, but it's big enough for people to notice. I didn't get this chest by switching up my routines.
If you attend my ZUMBA classes, you may notice that the last leg track has several "tiers" in the song and the moves are all the same. The first tier is hard, but then we take a quick break. The second tier is harder, and we take another break. By the third or fourth tier, we're about done because our legs are smashed! This is what it feels to actually accomplish something: you do it over and over until you could FEEL the work. Why are the legs getting smashed? Because they're doing the same thing over and over until they are wearing out.
In fact, in my ZUMBA classes, the moves stay the same more or less. The music would change rather often, but the routine is pretty much the same. But one song could make the same routine harder than another song could. My method in my classes is to use the power of consistency and progression to help you get a good work out. If I kept switching up the moves every time you came to class, you would spend so much time trying to figure things out that you wouldn't even get a work out!
Goals are for people who are willing to keep a routine. If you are willing to do the same thing over and over again until you could FEEL the work, then you could obtain what you're looking for. But every time you "switch it up," then you would be starting from scratch. Always changing your routine is no better than quitting a project and starting on another project.
I've already mentioned that I'm learning several languages at once: Spanish, German, Greek, and recently I added Russian and Hebrew. Good gracious, what's wrong with me??? Of all these languages, Spanish is becoming a bit boring to me. But guess what? My Spanish is becoming better and better. When I listen to the words being spoken, I could quickly interpret what's being said. Whenever I listen to the Bible being read in Spanish, I could understand it more and more. Now, imagine if I got so bored with Spanish that I stopped learning it so I could learn Russian. What's going to happen to my Spanish? Yep, my Spanish would suffer and I'm going to forget stuff. If my goal was to simply keep my brain active, then it doesn't matter if I become fluent in a language or not. But my goal is to eventually speak a language, so switching up my routine is a no-no. I need to keep at it even if I get sick of it, and when I start getting sick of it, that is when I become better at it.
Instead of always changing your routine, do MORE with the routine that you have. If you're a dude and you want a big chest, do push ups. When the push ups become easy, then do MORE push ups. Do the push ups faster. Do the push ups slower. Put weight on your back when you do push ups, but keep doing push ups. Don't switch to chest press, chest flies, or anything else. Just stick with one routine and MAXIMIZE it. If you're going on a road trip and you keep changing your course, how long would it take you to get to your destination? Yes, a long time! Good answer!
Remember: if it worked one time, then it would work again. If the routine you've chosen has produced some results, then it would eventually produce more results. Stick with it and get better at it. Don't get distracted with all the latest...anything. Don't allow yourself to get so bored that you feel the need to change. Keep doing what works and do it better.
This past weekend I decided to change out the kitchen sink and the sink plumbing in my uncle's house. I went to Habitat for Humanity Restore store for cheap parts. I saw two sinks that I liked: one sink looked like it was ceramic (but it wasn't) and the other sink was white cast iron.
I bought the ceramic-like sink for only $1.50 total. The sink was doubled-side and had deep wells so that you could put more dishes in it (probably not so much a good thing if you hate washing dishes!). The sink was light to carry and the two drains in the sink were the same as in the sink that I needed to change out. And as for the pipes for this sink, I thought finding and putting the pipes together would be challenging, but it was easy to do! In fact, the entire job took about an hour to do.
But, I really wanted the cast iron sink -- and something told me not to get it. The sink was slightly more expensive at $3 -- which would have been over $200 if bought brand new. The sink was HEAVY -- so heavy that if you weren't really strong, you would need two people to carry it.
Being excited about this sink, I started to work on the plumbing and discovered that it would be a challenge! The sink was also double-sided, but the drains were in slightly different spots. I bought extra pipes and cut the pipes that I had. I've spent more money and much more time trying to re-route the pipes so that my uncle could have this beautiful, cast iron sink.
The job took so long that I took two days to finish the job -- but then I realized that the work wasn't worth it anymore. So, I used the FIRST sink that I bought and set it up in under 20 minutes -- much quicker than the first time that I set it up.
This is kind of like life, isn't it? We have easy, very practical opportunities presented to us, but we get caught up in the luster of opportunities that aren't within our reach. Instead of going for something that we could use right away, we strive to get something that is difficult to get and we would try hard to make it work. But then we realize that we've wasted a lot of resources chasing a dream that would be nothing more than a dream. We get so caught up in fantasy that we miss all the opportunities that are thrown at us on a daily basis.
The first sink was very practical (it could fit in more dishes), dirt cheap (less than $2), easy to carry, and the plumbing wasn't hard to do. No cutting or re-routing involved. In fact, I didn't even need to replace the pipes. The cast iron sink was not practical (the drains were in funky places and the wells weren't deep to put a lot of dishes in), very heavy to carry, and the plumbing needed lots of adjustments. Plus, it took too long re-routing the entire sink plumbing AND I wasn't able to do it without doing further construction work!
The first sink represents the opportunities that I could use right away. They are within my reach, on my level of skills, utilize my experiences, and involve something that I KNOW I would enjoy. The second sink represents the opportunities that I DREAM about, but have no assurance that I would be able to obtain them. They are outside my reach, have nothing to do with my current skills, barely utilize my experiences, and I'm not completely sure if I would enjoy those opportunities. But the opportunities, just like that cast iron sink, simply look attractive.
Why is it that we always go after stuff that we know we can't have, while ignoring the stuff that we CAN have? My daughter has some sensitivity to dairy products: milk, cheese, butter, creamer, you name it. While she is learning more and more to accept her limitations, she still gets excited when she could try out some vegan-based product that tastes like cheese. Why continue to torture yourself, sweetheart? Why not just focus on the foods that you CAN have instead of longing for the foods that you CAN'T have? When trying to go for things that you know would cause an issue, you would be working extra, extra hard trying to make it work out. Then at the end, you'd realize how much time you've wasted chasing an empty dream.
Look, I'm not saying that you should settle for second best. But be more practical with your life. You only have so many years on this earth. Why waste it chasing after dreams that may never happen for you? Would it not be more productive to go after things that you could use right away?
I'm an avid gardener that lives in an apartment. I have several vertical gardening towers on my back deck, plus I have extra pots to grow in. I already know of my limitations: I don't have several acres of land, but only 90-square feet of patio space. Some things I would not be able to grow without a lot of unnecessary hard work. I would love to grow watermelons, but they require lots of space that they could get from the ground. I would love to grow fruit trees, but that's not going to happen right now. I need to focus on what I could grow NOW, not on what I could grow some day in the future -- assuming that I'd be living that long.
Many of you are missing out on opportunities because you're holding out for that one, super duper, extra special opportunity of a life time. How long are you willing to hold out for that opportunity? How long do you believe you'd live on this planet? And if you do live long, are you certain that you'd be in any condition to enjoy that opportunity should you ever get it? It's like a man who waited years to find the "perfect woman," but once he finally met her and married her, he had a stroke and was in no condition to enjoy her. He wasted his life chasing a dream just to discover that he couldn't even enjoy it!
Instead of going back to college, why not see what you could do with the skills and education that you have now? Instead of moving to another state (or country) for a job, why not see what you could do where you live? Instead of saving money to buy the perfect car, see what car you could buy now. Instead of trying to find the perfect home, try finding an imperfect home and see how you could fix it up? Everyday, you are walking or driving or biking pass many opportunities because none of them look attractive, and then you wonder why you're not living the life of your dreams.
I believe we all were assigned to certain areas in life. Not all are meant to be rich. Not all are meant to be super healthy. Not all are meant to be mothers or fathers. We have all been assigned with certain opportunities that are within our reach, opportunities that may not look good now, but would look beautiful later on. These won't be perfect opportunities, but opportunities that are perfect for YOU. If you miss them because you're romanticizing about another opportunity, you'd be working like crazy just to make that dream work out. Then eventually, you'd regret bypassing the less attractive opportunities because you're working too hard just to make an unrealistic dream work out.
Dream big, but don't set your sights on all the glamour that you see everyday. Look for things that you know you could use right away. Those are the things that would make your life a success. Chasing unrealistic fantasies would bring you to misery.
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