As a gardener, I am learning this very important thing: plant only what will grow and eat whatever you could get.
So, the Fall is here and all the summer plants are closing shop. Now, the Fall crops are sprouting. Tomatoes, watermelons, cantaloupes -- you know, all those delicious fruits -- will not grow again until next year. So, I'm stuck with all the salad plants: bok choy, lettuce, kale, broccoli, mustard greens, pretty much all the leafy green stuff. In general, I don't like ANY of this crap!
Guess what? Those are the vegetables that will grow during this time! I could either give myself a headache trying to grow the stuff I really want, or grow what I know would thrive -- and learn to like it!
While I generally don't like the leafy green stuff, I have learned little by little how to make tasty dishes using these vegetables. Everything from green smoothies to stir-fry foods, the leafy greens have been growing on me. Now, I'm looking forward to growing more of them!
You see, the opportunities presented to you may not look attractive just yet. In fact, they would look downright awful to you. But if you learn to work with what you have, you might find yourself not only liking what is presented to you, but also thriving in it.
Listen, you may not always get exactly what you want. There are few things in life that you want and you could actually get. Most other things in life require an acquired taste -- that is, you just need to learn to like it.
When I was doing personal training, I really didn't care for it. I had no vision for it. Despite people asking if I do personal training and even showing interest in paying me for it, I still wasn't a fan of it.
But later on, I found that personal training is something I have been successful in. All my clients have gotten results -- except for the ones who just didn't try. The income potential and the amount of time to spend on clients would further promote lots of family time. Plus, I didn't need to have any space of my own. I could just meet clients in their homes -- or wherever.
The more I thought about it, the more it just made sense to get into personal training again. There were other things I wanted to do, other things I really had hope in. But my situation didn't allow for those things -- my situation did allow for personal training. So, I could either sit around hoping that I could do the other things and bring myself to poverty, or take the opportunity that is given to me and learn to thrive in it.
I would love to eat cantaloupe from my garden all year long. Well, that's not going to happen -- unless I plant the cantaloupe plants indoors, pollinate my cantaloupe plants by hand, and turn up the heat in the house. Plus, I need to plug in a black light so that plant could get some UV rays. That's a lot of work just to get cantaloupes! Or, I could just work with whatever that grows during the Fall and find ways to enjoy the foods that grow. Whether cantaloupe or lettuce, they are both nutritious!
Same thing with the opportunities that you want and the opportunities that are given to you: they are BOTH good for you. One isn't better than the other. It's just that you would have to work much, much harder to get what you really want -- and you still may not get it! Growing cantaloupes indoors with all my hard work does not guarantee cantaloupes would actually grow. If you go with the opportunities that have been given to you, you won't have to work as hard to thrive in it -- simply because the opportunities were given to you.
Remember that you could learn to enjoy anything. Enjoyment for a particular thing doesn't always have to come naturally. I never enjoyed healthy eating when I was a kid. It wasn't until I was about 16 when I started enjoying healthy eating and having intense interest in health and nutrition.
I teach kids at my church on Wednesday nights. I never thought I'd enjoy teaching kids, but the more I do it, the more I actually like it. While I don't have a "passion" for teaching kids, I am pretty darn good at it, and the kids love having me as their teacher.
You may not like the opportunity, but it is given to you. If it's given to you, then work with it and learn how to make it work for you. Before long, you would be a master in it!
Right now, people are impressed that we have such a successful garden on a patio! The patio is only 90 square feet. Some of you have acres of land! My dream is to have acres of land where I could grow an orchard and have some chickens running around. But, that opportunity has not been given to me. I would have to work like MAD to obtain my dream and make lots of sacrifices. The opportunity that HAS been given to me is a small apartment with a patio. We are THRIVING as urban farmers, or "patio farmers," and showing other people that it is possible to have a successful garden with little space.
In fact, I am a member of a Facebook group that promotes one of the vertical garden towers that I have. Within a few months of posting my garden photos, one of the co-founders of this vertical garden decided to make me an administrator of that Facebook page!
Thrive with the opportunities that are given to you. Don't sweat blood for that other thing that you really want. Perhaps those other things really aren't for you. Maybe you would do better with the opportunities that life presents to you. Plus, you won't live so stressed out trying to get something that may never happen to you.
If life gives it to you, take it and thrive. Maybe one day you will live your other dreams, but until that happens, thrive in the situation that you were put in.
There is only one place in the universe that I know of that has 25-hour days: Mars. Sadly, we on Earth only have 24-hour days.
The 24-hour-day period is standard throughout the entire planet. No one has more or less than 24 hours. The guy in Russia has 24 hours in a day just like the guy in California. The black woman in New York has the same amount of hours in a day as the Japanese woman in Tokyo. The super-busy billionaire in London has 24 hours in a day just like the dirt-poor pauper in Mississippi. The president of the United States has the same amount of hours in a day as the blue-collar worker in New Zealand.
If you're living on this planet, you have 24 hours in a day just like everybody else who lives on this planet. What makes you different from the next person is what you do with your 24 hours.
How is it that one person seem to have all the time in the world while the next person is struggling with getting any amount of free time? Simple. One person decides to take control of the available time, while the other person has no control over time.
I don't care how busy you are, time is in YOUR control. You decide what you do with your time. If you have no control over time, then you will NEVER have time.
One time, I was doing online personal training for this one woman. All I required was 10 minutes of exercises, and she had to do those exercises by herself. Just TEN minutes. Taking a quick poop in the bathroom, jumping in the shower, and brushing your teeth could take about 10 minutes. You could easily waste 10 minutes by checking your e-mail and Facebook. So, 10 minutes is really nothing.
But she didn't do the exercises, because she didn't have time.
Now, you tell me something: if you were just required to do 10 minutes of ANYTHING, would it be reasonable for me to expect that you would have the time to do it? I just checked my Facebook stuff and I easily threw away 10 minutes -- 10 minutes of my butt on the chair responding to someone's non-urgent post.
Just 10 minutes of exercise, and this woman didn't even do it because she didn't have the time.
I NEVER tell anybody that I didn't have the time to do anything. If I didn't do something, it's because I didn't do it. Time had NOTHING to do with it. If something is really important for me, then I will FIND the time to do it.
Very few things in life are truly time-consuming. Traveling an hour to work, cooking dinner, cleaning the house, going to sleep, etc. Most other things are not. For instance, it takes little time to:
Most of the the daily tasks that we do truly don't take a lot of time. So, if most of the things we do on a daily basis don't take up much time, why do so many of us struggle with finding time?
Simple: we got our priorities mixed up.
One of my weaknesses is staying up late doing nothing. While I could go to bed, I would decide to just veg out on a chair or watch a movie or watch YouTube videos. Then 1 am comes by and I am just getting to bed -- just to wake up at 7 am to start the day. Now I'm tired for the rest of the day. Instead of putting a higher priority on my sleep, I decided to put a higher priority on staying up late doing nothing.
Should I go around complaining about how I could never find enough time to go to sleep?
Another weakness is eating on schedule. I could get so caught up in an activity to the point where I forget to eat. Then lunch time comes and I am just now eating breakfast! Soon enough, I have to leave the house to do some activities and I may not eat until the kids are in bed.
Should I go around saying that I don't have time to eat?
Here's another one for you: sleeping in. Maybe I have gone to bed on time and gotten a full 8 or so hours of sleep, but when I wake up, it's still dark outside. So I decide to go back to bed for another hour. That was an hour I could have spent doing something important, but instead, I used that hour to sleep. Now when I wake up, I'm tired because I overslept and for the entire day, I'm looking forward to going back to sleep.
What the heck is wrong with that picture?
See, everybody has enough time to do whatever he or she wants. But until we get our priorities in order, we will NEVER have time to do the important stuff.
One time on Facebook, I wrote a post about everybody having enough time to do anything, but that we misuse our time. Someone responded disagreeing with me, stating how she barely has any time....
And she was responding to my Facebook status...talking about how she barely has any time...
She was responding to my Facebook status...
See where I'm going with this? Messed up priorities!
Back in EMS, there were times when we could get so busy that we couldn't even pee or eat. Once we discharged a patient at a hospital, another call would be waiting for us, and once we finished with that call, another call would be waiting. Now that, my friends, is true busyness!
One of my partners, who was a bodybuilder, told me that one time he and his partner got so busy that he had to call his unit out of service. He took his blood sugar and it was 20 mg/dL -- normal is at least 80 mg/dL! He had to call his unit out of service so that he could eat. When he saw his blood sugar, his priorities switched from taking care of the city to taking care of himself. Calling a unit out of service made for one less ambulance available for the city, but his priorities was on taking care of himself so he could take care of the city.
Now, are you willing to do the same? Are you willing to switch up your priorities so that you could find time to do the important things in your life?
Isn't it amazing how we start finding time when our health is in trouble? But for the most part, our health is not in jeopardy. It's everything else that's in trouble.
No time for anything! When you mess up your priorities, you won't ever have time. You would go through a whole day doing everything and accomplishing nothing, and you would ask yourself, "Where did the time go?"
I don't have a lot of clothes, and I want to keep it that way. When you see me, you're most likely going to see me wear something that you've seen me wear before. I don't want clothes to be a time-sucker for me. I want to throw something on and go.
My hair is short, nearly bald on occasions. I don't want my hair to be a time-sucker.
I have only two pairs of shoes. That cuts down on my time for choosing what pair I need to wear for the day.
The more time I cut down on the non-important stuff, the more time I could spend on the important stuff.
How do you know what is important and what isn't? If you find yourself saying, "Man, I wish I could spend more time on this," then you would know exactly what is important.
Let us not get caught up in the I'm-too-busy excuse. Listen, there is NOTHING praiseworthy about being busy. Having a busy schedule is nothing to brag about. No sane person would want to have a busy life. Being in EMS, I know exactly what being busy feels like. When you're a dude and you can't find time to pee in a bush somewhere, then you know that you're busy! And there is nothing attractive about being that busy.
Put your priorities on the important things in life. Reduce your busyness, which you can absolutely do if you have the will for it. Time is in YOUR hands. Use that time well, and time would work for you. When you misuse your time, your whole day would be wasted.
Some things in life you could do naturally. Those are easy to do, of course. But with other things, you need some training. Unfortunately, it is the thing you need training with that would improve your life.
One of my biggest struggles is eating more fruits and veggies. I am not naturally inclined to eat all the healthy stuff. I like to go for all the junk foods. I'd much rather have cereal or pancakes for breakfast rather than a fruit smoothie. I'd rather have pizza for lunch than something with vegetables in it. I'd rather have a cheeseburger for dinner than to have, I don't know, some healthy crap that won't taste good.
Now, my natural inclination for the bad foods is caused by YEARS of exposure to these foods. So, if I want something to eat, I would want something fast and tasty like McDonald's food or something.
My natural inclinations are, of course, no good for my health. I can't live a good life with French fries, hot dogs, pizza, ice cream, and doughnuts. So, I would need to TRAIN myself to desire the healthy foods that would actually do my body some real good.
In order to train myself, I have to place certain rules on me.
My goal is to naturally want to eat healthy foods. But this takes training on my part. I need to make more conscious decisions for my actions rather than do things haphazardly.
Another one of my struggles is simply to eat something. I could get caught up in doing a project and could forget to eat. This has had quite an impact on me, because I was losing weight, getting pains, and my exercise performance was suffering. But once I decided to eat more food, my exercise performance improved, my bodily aches were going away, and I started getting more muscular!
So, my natural inclinations are to under-eat and eat mostly the bad stuff. I need to train myself to eat more and to eat the healthy stuff.
I have plenty of natural inclinations that make me feel good AT FIRST, but then I'll feel horrible afterwards. The things I have to train for won't feel good at first, but afterwards I would feel amazing!
It's like coming to fitness class. Does it feel good to do a million squats and lunges? Believe it or not, squats are one of my LEAST favorite exercises! Any leg exercises, for that matter, are my least favorite exercise. But in ZUMBA, what exercise do we seem to do over and over again? Leg exercises! Why? Because leg exercises:
And the list goes on! No, these reasons won't make you like squats any more than you do now, but at least you could see the potential contribution squats and other leg exercises could make on your health.
Heck, it's natural for us to just not want to do any exercises. How many of you like getting out of bed to go for a jog? How many of you enjoy leaving work to sweat hard before bed time? Exercise is not usually something we naturally want to do. We'd much rather do nothing! But doing nothing would destroy our bodies. Doing something, would build up our bodies.
Doing what you're not naturally inclined to do would benefit you more than doing what you naturally want to do.
How many of you know how to read? I'll assume that ALL of you know how to read if you're reading this. Did you come out of your mother's nether regions with a book in your hand? No, you had to TRAIN to read. You see the struggle that people who can't read have everyday? It's easy to get by without reading if you're a kid. Once you're an adult, the struggle gets real!
When you were learning how to read, was it a pleasant experience? Heck no! You felt stupid the whole time, and it was mentally draining. But now, you could live on your own because you could fill out your own job application.
Did you come out of Mommy with a ruler in your hand? No, you had to TRAIN yourself to know math. For some of you, math is still a difficult subject, but at least you know how to count your money. You know how to add, subtract, divide, and multiply -- at least when doing simple problems, which is all you need to get around in life.
Most of the stuff you're doing now required training:
You are where you are because you had training. Now, you could be in a better place if you are willing to TRAIN YOUR WAY THERE.
Very few things that would benefit us would come naturally to us. Just a few things. Very few things. For the most part, we need to train ourselves to better things in life.
What is it that you're trying to get? Are you able to get it naturally? If not, then you need to train your way to it.
Naturally, you want to give up, feel sorry for yourself, use excuses, get distracted, and just do things that would serve you no purpose. It's time to train yourself for things that will serve you well.
Some of us are very result-oriented. We live for results. If we're not getting results, then we're not really living. Once we get results, then we need to accomplish another goal to get more results. Life for such people is conquering one thing after another.
And then there is everybody else...
I am not a result-oriented person...because I don't believe we could make results. You could only INVITE results to happen.
When I was a chubby kid, I never had a goal to lose weight. Yes, I knew I was fat and I wasn't happy about it. I definitely wasn't happy with all the names the kids were calling me in school. But weight loss was never my goal. Instead, I saw an exercise program on T.V. that I just, for some unknown reason, decided to do. The first time I exercised to this program, I enjoyed it and was immediately hooked.
While I was in school, I would program my VCR (some of you probably vaguely remember a VCR) to record this show. When I was at home, I would watch the show and exercise to it.
Within two years, I dropped all of my weight! Now everybody was calling me skinny.
My focus was on doing something that I enjoyed, and as a result, I dropped weight. Now, had it been the other way around where I was focused on losing weight, then I may not have lost any weight.
You see, I didn't make myself lose weight. Only my body gets to decide if it wants to lose weight. All I did was INVITE the results. In other words, I did all the right activities and I enjoyed doing them. Those activities would attract (but not guarantee) the results of weight loss.
In my life, I've noticed that I accomplish things by not focusing on results. Instead, I have a general vision of what I want my life to look like and would make choices to support that vision. Whatever results I get from my activities would naturally happen.
In other words, focus on ACTIVITY, not RESULTS. Results, no matter what they are, would naturally happen no matter what you do.
Have you ever gone on a road trip and were simply focused on the destination? I bet that was one LONG road trip, huh? It was long because all you were focused on was getting to the end. This is why I don't like interstates: they are long and boring, having no scenery.
When my family and I went to Buffalo recently, it was definitely a LONG trip! But when we came back to Raleigh from Buffalo, the trip didn't seem so bad. Why? Because on the way back to Raleigh, I took a bunch of back roads. There was so much to see and so much change of scenery.
The time it took to get to Buffalo and to Raleigh were the same, believe it or not. The difference is that I was more concerned with the route on our way back to Raleigh, whereas on our way to Buffalo, I was concerned about the destination.
You will get somewhere or something in this life. The question is what route would you take. If you're more concerned with results, you would most likely take the most tedious route. If you're more concerned with the activity, then you're most likely to choose the most enjoyable AND productive route.
Doing any activity would get you somewhere, so you really don't need to focus on results. Results will happen naturally. So choose an activity that you enjoy doing.
The physique that I have now didn't come because I wanted it. I have this physique because I engaged in activity that I truly enjoy (ZUMBA is one of them). Plus, I like working hard in those activities. Working hard in physical activities that I enjoyed has given me a nice physique. I had NO results in mind.
While I was a P.E. teacher, I was able to show the kids how strong and fast I was. I did crazy stuff such as...
The list goes on. I was able to do these things because I was engaged in physical activity that I enjoyed doing -- not because I had goals to accomplish these things.
Right now, I have twelve budding cantaloupes growing in my garden. My goal wasn't to grow 12 cantaloupes. I just focused on taking care of my plants -- and the results just happen on their own.
Have a broad vision of what you'd like your life to look like, and then choose activities that would support that vision. Instead of making goals for the sole purpose of getting results, focus on drawing a full portrait of what your life could look like. Then ask yourself what are some things you could do to support that lifestyle.
When you're focused on results, you're focused on getting something NOW. You would pick activities that would get you to your destination as quickly as possible. But when you're focused on activity, then you'd have more opportunities presented to you that would help you support your overall vision in life. You'd be much happier doing activities that you enjoy that would support your vision than you would by living everyday with nothing but results to achieve.
Sometimes, out of practicality, you need to focus on specific results. Get your kids to bed by 9 pm. Save up $100 to purchase an item. Finish a school project by tomorrow. But in general, if you focus more on WHAT YOU DO, life would be more enjoyable and more productive than if you focus on WHAT YOU GET.
One time while working in EMS, my partner and I placed a BIG patient in the ambulance. This man was unconscious (or seemed to be). We couldn't figure what was wrong with him. His vitals looked fine, blood sugar looked good, and he showed no signs of any distress. The fire fighters were at the scene first, but once they helped us get this big guy in the ambulance, there was no further need for the fire fighters. My partner and I were left alone.
Then suddenly, the patient started going wild! He started yelling, mouth wide open where I could see all his teeth. This dude was big enough to have me for dinner! My first inclination was to run out of the ambulance to protect my life. However, my crazy partner just stood in front of the patient (who was still on the stretcher) and demanding that the patient calm down.
Dang! I wanted to leave the ambulance, but I couldn't abandon my partner. So, I stood behind the patient and near our portable oxygen tank. I was ready to use this tank to smash the patient if I needed to.
But as I saw that the patient wasn't getting up and throwing fists at us, I calmly went to my radio and calmly asked communications to send the police. My voice was calm, but you could hear the patient screaming and hollering in the background.
In no time, the fire fighters who helped us were racing back to the ambulance with lights and sirens. They heard my call for the police on their radios. Those fire boys jumped onto the back of the ambulance to help us restrain the patient. Shortly after the fire guys came back, the police showed up on scene and hopped in the back as well.
During this entire time, nobody, including me, lost any self control. From calmly radioing communications to get help to properly restraining the patient without beating him up, self control was practiced the entire time. I didn't run out of the ambulance, I didn't scream on the radio, my partner and the fire fighters didn't start beating up on the patient, and the police didn't go taser happy on the patient.
We went to the hospital, discharged the patient, and returned to base in one piece.
Had we lacked self control, that entire situation could have gone wrong. I could have abandoned my partner and the patient might have attacked my partner. The fire fighters and the police could have easily knocked the patient senseless and we would have been on the news. But because of self control, that entire scene was nicely managed and no one was hurt...or sued.
Long story, I know, but it shows the power of self control. Whenever I teach my CPR classes, I expressed that you could make an emergency into a non-emergency by simply being calm -- that is, having self control over the situation. You don't let the situation control you: YOU control the situation.
When you practice self control, not only could you think clearly, but you could better handle ANY situation in your life no matter how dire it looks.
At my church, a member was teaching a self defense class. One of the things he went over was NEVER let anybody kidnap you. If someone is holding a gun to your head or a knife at your throat, don't let that person take you anywhere -- because once he or she kidnaps you, your chances of survival is slim.
Our natural tendency in such situations is to do whatever the person tells us. But self control would tell you to say no to the kidnapper. The kidnapper most likely won't want to get caught, so instead of staying and fighting with you, he or she may just simply run without any harm done to you. Self control prevented you and your family any heartache. But lacking self control and doing whatever the man or woman tells you would start a long series of concerns for you and your family, and the story may still end up bleak.
Self control is all about discipline. Naturally, NOBODY has self control. You would do whatever you feel like doing it. But self control comes with lots of discipline -- and it's this kind of discipline that puts power into your hands.
If someone insults you, your natural tendency is to insult back and you would make a benign situation into a bad one. But once you practice self control and hold back your insults, you would have just cut short that situation and you would have avoided any further problems.
Someone hits you, your natural tendency is to hit back. But if you do, a fight would happen and you could end up dead. But with self control, you could hold back your pride and walk away with no further damage.
With raising kids, you really need to practice self control, especially if you have old school values of parenting. Kids get you mad and you would want to spank them for everything, or put them in time out for everything, or just scream at them for the littlest things. With self control, you could learn to justly punish your kids for their crimes in a way that would teach them to know better the next time. With me, I want the punishment to be a teaching lesson. I don't care to punish my kids simply because I'm mad -- that would be losing self control.
Driving a car is about self control. You are driving a weapon! If you get irresponsible with the car, you could kill someone -- like you, another driver, a pedestrian, etc. With self control, you could drive from home, to work, to the store, and back home without ending up on the news.
How much self control do YOU have?
Your natural tendency is to do or say what immediately comes to mind. But with self control, you could train yourself to choose what actions you'd take or what words you'd use.
Self control is a discipline that teaches you what to do, when to do it, and how to do it. It teaches you what to say, when to say it, how to say it -- or more importantly, IF you need to say anything!
When you're exercising, you definitely have to practice self control. When I tried out for fencing back in high school, I went to training for just ONE day and quit. The exercises were too hard. Instead of taking the pain and trusting that I would get better and better, I decided to punk out like the weak, chubby kid I was.
Self control gives you power! If helps you control the situation. If helps you direct your steps. When you lose self control, you could end up losing everything -- like your money, your family, your job, and even your life.
Before you FEEL that you have to do anything, stop and think. Before you FEEL that you have to say anything, stop and think. Before you FEEL anything that makes you think a certain way -- stop and think. Don't do or say the first thing that comes to mind. Practice self control in your life so that you could have control in your life.
If you have taken my ZUMBA fitness classes for a while, you may have noticed that there is a particular pattern that I follow.
For my one-hour class, I have 14 songs. The first is a warm-up. Then I have three intense songs, one of which always involves squats and lunges. Then comes a recovery song where we slow down the heart rate. Afterwards, we have three more intense songs, one of which always involves punching. Another recovery song follows, and then we have three more intense songs, one of which is always a pure leg or a leg-back work-out. We have one last recovery song, and we finish with a stretch.
When I first started teaching ZUMBA at the church, I didn't have any real pattern. The songs were, in some sense, randomly thrown together. But it wasn't long until I developed a particular structure, and it is this structure that makes the class so intense. Before I developed this structure, the class was moderately intense. Actually, I didn't feel it was all that intense because I would tell my wife that I don't really get a work-out from my class.
Then I put together this structure, and by the end of class, I'm ready to crash!
When you think about structure, don't think so much about strict rules. Think about structure as a building frame for a goal.
My goals for my ZUMBA fitness classes are that people get a great work-out, tone up, build cardio endurance, and as a bonus, lose some weight. So far, not only have I established these goals for myself, but also for other people who attend these classes. But before, my ZUMBA fitness classes didn't really contribute much to overall fitness -- not until I put some structure into my class.
Here's something else about the structure of my class: I don't get away from it! This structure is set in stone. There will always be 14 songs in my 60-minute class. There will always be three recovery songs, one warm up, one stretch, one punching song, etc. All I could do from this point is to build on this structure to make it better. Not to CHANGE it, but to IMPROVE it.
In my 45-minute class, it's different. One warm-up, four intense, one recovery, three intense, one recovery, one stretch.
When you have structure, you could finally accomplish something because you know what you have to work with. But take the structure away, and everything becomes random -- and you can't accomplish anything with randomness. You cannot randomly work your way to success.
While we may not be big fans of structure, we know how important they are. When definitely know how important structure is when playing games!
Just think, how frustrating would it be to play a game that had no structure? There is no set way to win and there are no rules to break. Anybody could just make up the rules along the way, and everybody would be frustrated because nobody could really win.
Back when I was teaching PE, one of the things we went over was establishing rules for any game. There were particular games the kids like to play, but the rules weren't always clear -- that is, it was really easy to make stuff up along the way. A game with unclear rules is a game with no structure. A game with no structure is a game that nobody could win, but everybody could lose.
If there is something you want to go for, you have to have structure to help you get there. Otherwise, you could just stop what you're doing because you would be making stuff up along the way. Again, you cannot win with random actions.
Can you build a house without the skeleton? Well, you can....but it will eventually fall down, and building it would be a pain every bit of the way! Once you build a foundation and a skeleton, not only would building the house be easier, but you would know what the house is suppose to look like based on the structure (which is the foundation and the skeleton).
Once the foundation and skeleton is up, then comes the walls, the pipes, the electrical, all the HVAC stuff, insulation -- you know, all the unattractive stuff that stays hidden. Once all the structure is established, then we could pretty up the house with vinyl paneling, paint, carpet or hardwood floors, window blinds and curtains, kitchen appliances, etc. But without the structure set in place, you can't bring in any of that pretty stuff that we look at everyday.
Structure could be a pain to have, but it helps you get to where you want to go. While it takes time to put structure together, once it is put together, you will take off quickly!
Establishing your own business is a challenge mostly because of the lack of structure. It's not lack of money or lack of time. It's having no plan in place to get you going. Once you take the time to build a structure for your business, then issues such as money and time would resolve themselves. But what aspiring entrepreneurs get caught up in is finding money, trying to make time, this, that, and the other and completely forget that they need to first write out a PLAN -- that is, build a structure for their business.
People wanting to lose weight, get fit, build muscle, be able to run a 5K would fail at their attempts if they have no structure in place. When you have structure, a plan in place, then you know exactly what you need to do. Going for your goals randomly will just make you run in circles. You need to plan out your meals, your exercise routines, the amount of time you will put into your attempts, and address any other changes you need to make.
There is YOU and there is your GOAL. What will connect you two would be STRUCTURE. Think about building a bridge from an island to the mainland. If you try to swim, you would get tired and the waves may push you off course -- and you also might get eaten up by a shark. But if you build a bridge, you could drive back and forth from the island to the mainland with no problems. The only thing you need to consider is making sure the structure remains safe and sound.
Is your life based on randomness or structure? If you find that you're usually accomplishing what you want, then you have structure in your life. If you find that you're all over the place and accomplishing nothing, your life is based on randomness. Spend a little time building a structure and you will find that reaching goals would be easier.
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