Since Thanksgiving is tomorrow, I thought it appropriate to talk a little bit about being thankful. But, I want to go a little deeper than just the ol' "be grateful for what you have."
Before class on this past Monday, I came to a BIG realization. I understood something about me that I have never noticed before. This revelation truly changed my thinking! I realized that I am not a very thankful person!
Yes, I am very thankful for what I have in life. However, saying that I am thankful and actually ACTING thankful are two different things. What you DO and how you THINK would truly show how thankful you really are.
If I complain about one thing, that shows that I am ungrateful. Really, what is it in life for me to complain about? I have everything I need. No, I don't have everything that I want, but I surely have everything I need to survive and thrive: a home, a car, a wife and kids, food in the fridge, a garden, friends, a great home church, internet, a flat-screen T.V. that was given to us, two bathrooms, a job, great health -- man, what is there for me to be ungrateful for?
But you see, we are ungrateful because we don't have what we WANT. While we have all that we NEED, we focus more on what we don't have -- and that makes a sour person.
Whenever I am in a foul mood, it's because, at the base level, I am ungrateful. Instead of looking around at the things I have going on, I am just focused on all the reasons for me to be sour. Kind of like children: they would complain and complain about what they don't have and forget about all the stuff that they DO have. Of course, I can't completely blame kids for being ungrateful, because thankfulness is a DISCIPLINE. Nobody is naturally thankful. You need to LEARN how to be thankful -- and not just how to be thankful when times are good, but also when times are bad. You need to learn how to be thankful when everything goes your way, and when nothing goes your way.
Going back to children, my daughter decided to complain about something ridiculous (of course to me, almost all complaints that children have are ridiculous). We were all in the car riding around in Creedmoor, N.C. I was trying to calmly address her complaint (which, again, was ridiculous), but she kept complaining more and more and it had gotten me so upset that I threatened to give her a consequence if she kept complaining.
Later on, while in the car, I had to give her (yet another) lesson about thankfulness and how her complaining showed that she wasn't thankful for what she already had. Actually, teaching kids about thankfulness is quite a frustrating tasks, because they NEVER seem to get it. That shows that thankfulness is a DISCIPLINE. No one will get it right away. Despite all the lessons you've heard and read about thankfulness, you still won't get it -- until you truly see the real POWER of thankfulness.
If you're tired of getting depressed and frustrated in life, being thankfulness will solve that problem. Once you start to learn what you do have going for you, you won't tend to be sour about life.
When you get up in the morning to get ready for work, instead of being hateful about your job, try thinking like this: my bills are paid, I have food to get, I have money for gas, I have clothes in the closet. If you don't think those things are important, then try leaving your job. You will quickly see the importance in these things!
Right now, I am in the mist of finding a job -- and I absolutely HATE the idea that I have to be away from the family for hours each day. I am also not thrilled that I might be working night shifts. However, while I don't like the situation, I am grateful for whatever I get that brings in income.
It wasn't too long when I had to ask my mother for money -- and man, that kills your pride! But, she is always willing to help out. Asking Mommy for money is a stressor for me, however I am thankful that she is there to help. Instead of having my pride bruised, let me just simply say THANK YOU and take her gift.
Years ago, I had to ask my church for money -- and, man, did I feel horrible! It's like everybody is blessed with good fortune and they have to take care of me! However, instead of thinking about my pride, I ought to have just said THANK YOU and take their gift -- which I did, of course, even though I didn't like it.
We all have been (and still are in) situations that we don't like. We still can't complain about it. In the end, everything really does turn out for the better. Sometimes, we need to be put in bad situations so that we could discipline ourselves to be thankful. It's really easy to get sour. It takes NO effort to complain, but it takes real STRENGTH to see the blessings in every situation and to practice thankfulness.
Tomorrow, when you eat that turkey, be thankful that you are eating somewhere. Be thankful that you are eating something! When you go to those Black Friday sales, be thankful that you have money to spend. There is always somebody out there who wishes he or she has what you have.
Back in my old school, I taught history and physical education as a full-time teacher -- but the full-time status lasted only two months. Kids started dropping out of school, and when it comes to private schools, drop-outs meant loss income.
Only a few teachers were able to keep their full time jobs. Unfortunately, I wasn't one of them. So, the principal told me that she would reduced the number of classes that I needed to teach. In a way, I was relieved because I absolutely HATED full-time work. I loved the teaching part, but the full-time thing was killing me -- and I was only working there for just two months!
Part of me wanted to sing praises. I ain't got to teach those kids everyday? Nice!
But...I realized that the elementary kids would only have physical education once a week, and they were having it every school day! The kindergarten kids wouldn't have any physical education. Physical education, or P.E., was the most popular class in that school and all the kids looked forward to it. So, I could just think about myself or think about the kids.
I told the principal to keep the schedule the same. While I didn't like the idea of coming to school early everyday and not getting paid for most of it, I did it for the sake of the kids.
When the end of the school year came, the kids expressed during the end-of-the-year ceremony how much they loved P.E.
Now that I think about this, I realize that sometimes you can't live life thinking about yourself. Sometimes, you have to think about those who need you -- and when you think about others, you yourself will become a much more outstanding person.
It's easy to serve ourselves. It's easy to make us happy. But nobody recognizes a person who just pleases him or herself. Nobody benefits if I just do all the things I want to do. If it were up to me, I'd just spend my entire life pursuing my own happiness.
But I don't wish to be a one-man show. I have a wife and two kids to think about. In addition, I have other important people in my life that I need to think about. The decisions I make cannot just benefit me, but it should benefit those I care about.
If someone were to offer me a nice-paying job, but I would have to sacrifice my ZUMBA fitness classes at the church, you'd better believe that I won't take it. Or if I was offered a nice position in another state, meaning that I have to leave my church family behind, I won't take it. Even while I was working part-time at the old school, should somebody had offered me a job that would require that I leave the school, I wouldn't do it.
If I live life where I just think about ME, I could accomplish so many, many, many things in life. I could do whatever that pleases me. But since I care about those I serve, many of those pursuits I won't take because it would have a negative impact on those I care about.
In our American society, we preach about living life to the fullest -- which means doing all the things that make you happy. For me, living life to the fullest is offering myself as a sacrifice to the benefit of my community. I came into this world with nothing and I will leave this world with nothing. However, when I leave this world, I could leave a legacy that would be past down to generations. How much I pleased myself isn't a legacy. How much I blessed those around me is a legacy.
You have so many gifts that could serve other people. Don't think about how these gifts would serve just you: think about how they could serve those around you.
Remember that there are people out there who could use what you have to offer. There are people who need you around. There are people who would be lost if you weren't in their lives. While I don't ask that you neglect your own happiness to make someone else happy, I am asking that you think on a higher level. What I could do for myself is low-level thinking. What I could do for others requires you to be much bigger than what you are now, because service to others requires people with special hearts.
I want you to have that special heart.
Believe it or not, I don't always enjoy writing these articles. Sometimes, they are just time-consuming and they tire out my brain! Sometimes, I would write almost an entire article and completely erase it to start over -- and that could happen as much as three times for one article!
What makes writing these articles worth it? When someone approaches me after ZUMBA class and said, "I really needed to read that e-mail you sent" or "The only reason I came to class tonight was because of your e-mail." Hearing that makes me feel that I am serving someone else, so I would continue to write these articles -- whether or not you read them, and whether or not I want to write them.
Service to others isn't drudgery for me, of course. Yes, sometimes it gets tiring. Yes, sometimes it gets discouraging. Yes, sometimes I just don't feel appreciated. But why do I still love servicing others? Because it makes me feel good. It makes me feel good that someone is being helped because of what I'm doing. Now, service to others makes me happier than trying to serve myself. Even if serving others could sometimes make me angry, the fact that someone else is being blessed because of my efforts is enough to make me feel better about it.
I truly feel honored to serve all of you through these articles and through the fitness classes. I hope that I continue doing this for a long time, and I hope that there have been improvements made in your life because of these efforts.
"If I can do it, you can, too!" spoken by anybody who has gained some significant success in his or her life. Usually, a person would say this because he or she saw him or herself as the least likely candidate for a particular success.
When you hear these words, you get encouraged, thinking, "Wow, if that person was able to do it, then certainly I could do it, too!"
But you know, I sometimes question how sound these words are. Really, if I was able to accomplish a goal, is it reasonable to believe that anybody else could accomplish the same thing?
Well, theoretically, anybody could do what I've done. In reality, no, not everybody could do what I could do.
Let's take this example. I could squat a significant amount of weight because I don't have any knee problems. Could someone with bad arthritis do the same? No, they can't.
Let's take this other example. Someone with great credit and a good paying job was approved a nice loan to open a business. This person opened a business and within a few weeks started making a profit. Could somebody with bad credit and no job get a loan to open a business, and much less make a profit from a business? No.
So not everybody could do what you could do. Not everybody is in the same position to accomplish what you can accomplish. However, everybody is in a position to accomplish something. Instead of trying to copy someone else's success, how about we focus on accomplishing our own successes?
See, everybody is in a different place in life. Everybody has different abilities. Everybody is presented with different opportunities. Some could get success in a place where you cannot get it in. But you might be in a place to get success in a place with those other folks cannot get it in.
Take someone who is genetically considered an "ectomorph." This person's fat metabolism is naturally higher, so getting fat would be hard for this person. This is the kind of person who could eat a lot and gain little to no weight. Now, should this person gain a significant amount of weight, he or she could lose it quickly if he or she started on an exercise and diet plan.
Now, take someone who is genetically considered an "endomorph." This person's fat metabolism is considerably slow, and it would be easy for this person to gain weight. If this person gains a significant amount of weight, he or she would see slow weight-loss results. If the ectomorph gained 100 lbs and the endomorph gained 100 lbs, the ectomorph could lose that weight in less than a year. The endomorph may lose that weight in two years!
Should the ectomorph say to the endomorph, "If I can do it, you can do it, too!" Of course not! The ectomorph had a genetic advantage over the endomorph.
I have an advantage over you. You have an advantage over me. All of us were put in situations where we would have more of a "leg-up" than another person.
I read of a story of a professor who had all of the students in his class throw paper balls into a trash can. The students who sat up at the front were able to get the balls into the trash can, or at least scored higher than the students in the back. The further back the students were, the less their chances of getting the balls into the trash can. The students in the back, of course, couldn't get any balls in the trash can.
The professor then told the students that success is offered to everybody, but that some people have more of an advantage for that success than others.
But let's see the other side of this example. What if the exit to the class was in the back of the room and there was a fire in the front of the room? Who is likely to get out first? The students in the back certainly couldn't make those paper ball shots, but they could certainly get out the classroom with their lives quicker than the students in the front!
In life, everybody is offered the same thing. Everybody could lose weight, everybody could get muscular, everybody could get rich, everybody could travel the world, everybody could get a car, everybody could have children. The question is not, however, what is offered to everybody. The question is what is offered to YOU.
The students in the front were offered the trash can to be close enough for them to throw their paper balls in. The students in the back were offered a quick escape from the class. Both students were offered the same thing, but each of the students had more of an advantage of getting one thing than the other.
What is your advantage in life? Yes, you do have an advantage to get something that other people don't -- and THAT, my friend, is what you ought to focus on. Don't focus on my success, your friend's success, or the success of those on television. Focus on the success that is offered to you!
I'm a part of several network marketing companies. I'm not doing business in any of them, but when I would attend their meetings and see the success of those so-called "ordinary people," I would be encouraged by thinking that the same thing could happen for me. Maybe I could make $10,000 a month like Mr. Blow Joe did!
But then I started thinking, "Mr. Blow Joe had no wife and kids to think of, he lived with his parents, and had lots of time to devote to this business." I didn't have any of that! Is it any wonder that Mr. Blow Joe was able to be so successful so quickly in his business while I'm nowhere near his success?
Yet, Mr. Blow Joe would say, "If I can do it, so can you!"
Well, maybe it's not for me to copy Mr. Blow Joe. Maybe I could also make $10,000 a month...but not by doing the business that he is doing. Maybe it could be by writing a book, something Mr. Blow Joe is weak in. Maybe it could be in a different network marketing company where I could use strengths that Mr. Blow Joe doesn't have.
But it's not a competition between me and him. It's about his having an advantage in one area of his life and my having an advantage in another area of my life. He is successful in what was offered to him. I would be success in what is offered to me.
Again, I ask, what is offered to you? What advantages do you have and how could you use that advantage for your good?
In my barbel class at the gym, I have quite a few skinny gals who probably never gained a pound in their lives. I have one girl in mind who is "straight up and down," having a flat chest, flat butt, no hips, narrow shoulders, you name it. She is all ectomorph! But her weights are also pretty light.
Then I have a "big girl" in my class who seem to have trouble losing all of her excess weight. However, she is strong like a bear! Her weights are usually quite impressive! The skinny gal is successful in having no fat to worry about, but she might not be very strong. The big girl is successful in being strong, but still struggles with her weight. Both gals have an advantage at something and a disadvantage in something.
In the same way, you have an advantage and a disadvantage. Focus on your advantage! Don't try to copy someone else's success. This is not to say to not go for the same thing that the other person is going for, but remember that the other person may be able to get it much quicker than you could. Don't get discouraged by it. Put your attention on something you can get quickly because of the advantage that you have been given.
You are at a party and meet a new person. The first question is usually, "What's your name." The second or third question is usually, "So, what do you do." Or in other words, what career are you in?
Why is my career so important that people would want to know that information right away? Do you not care that I am married, or that my kids learned how to cook, or that I am growing some sweet potatoes, or that I'm learning a new language, or that I'm expecting a grandchild? Of all the things that you could ask about me, why is my career among the top three things you need to know about me?
Sadly, because we put so much emphasis on careers, we tend to identify ourselves with our careers. We allow our careers to give meaning to our lives. We let our careers make us into who we are.
So, if we don't have a good career, we don't feel good about ourselves. If we have a great career, we would feel important.
How many of you are quick to tell people that you are [fill in the blank]? How many of you are ashamed of yourselves when somebody ask you what your field is? How many of you spend much of your waking hours wondering what would you do when you "grow up?"
For a while, I've wanted my doctorate degree, and maybe one day I will have one. But, the main reason why I wanted a doctorate degree was because I wanted to feel important. I wanted people to take me seriously. I wanted something that my family could feel proud of.
When it comes to what to do as a career, I wanted to do something that I felt was important to society as a whole. I wanted to tell people with pride what kind of career I'm in. When I was in EMS, I used to walk around in the store with my EMS uniform on, because I wanted to show everybody that I was important, doing important things.
When I went to training to become the highest level in EMS, which was the paramedic level, I was excited because I was about to become MORE important. As a paramedic, people want me! I could brag to everybody that I'm a "medic."
The older I get, however, the more it distresses me to identify myself with a career.
I don't want to be known by what field I am in. What if I can't participate in that field ever again? Would I just not feel important anymore? Would I lose my identity? Would I go into despair because I'm not "Aiyo the Paramedic" or "Aiyo the Doctor" or "Aiyo the Firefighter?"
The older I get, the more importance I see in the other things I do that ought to give me a sense of importance.
Why don't those things make me feel important? Because society as a whole doesn't value those things. Society values the career that you're in, and if you're in a good career, society makes you feel good. If you're in a not-so-good career, then no matter how wonderful you are in other areas of your life, you would be a nobody in society's eyes.
There are so many wonderful people in this world who are not in any glamorous careers, and they are often times overlooked in society. Yet there are so many horrible people in this world who have awesome careers, but society only cares about their awesome careers and would make them feel good about themselves.
If your career is the only thing that gives you identity, you will be in trouble when you can't do that career anymore.
I won't be foolish as to think that I'm indestructible. Anything could happen to me so that I can't teach fitness classes anymore. What would I do if that happens? If I don't let my career define me, then I could always find other things to do. If my career does define me, I would fall so much into despair that I might kill myself -- or do some other kind of harm to myself.
Ask my kids who I am, and they will tell you, "He's my daddy." Ask my wife who I am, and she will tell you, "He's my husband." Neither of them said, "He's a ZUMBA instructor" or "He's a teacher" or "He's a writer." These things are what I DO, but they are not who I am. I am a husband and a father who TEACHES fitness classes, or who WRITES inspirational messages, or who does this, that, and the other.
When you look yourself in the mirror, don't define yourself with your career. Your career is simply that: a career. It's what you do to pay your bills. You are not a doctor first. You are not a teacher first. You are not a police officer first. You are not a civil judge first. You are YOU first...and your career is what you DO, not who you ARE.
So, who are you?
Criticism in itself isn't wrong. If it's constructive criticism, then it's meant to build you up to make you a better person.
However, there is a such thing as destructive criticism -- this is criticism that's meant to either break you down or make you into something that you are not. This is the type of criticism that you hear all the time.
When I was training to be a BodyPump instructor at the gym, I was prepared to receive criticism from those who observed me -- and I welcomed it. My concern was what could I do to be better. For the most part, I received constructive criticism: "you need to speak more clearly in the mic," "your form was a little off," "you made a mistake in the choreography," "learn how to better communicate your cues." See, these are important things that will make me a better instructor.
Then, there was that rare destructive criticism: "you are a bit too dancey." While the person didn't mean any harm by saying this, this kind of criticism had NOTHING to do with my ability to lead a class. This kind of criticism addressed my personality, not my skill -- and it's the SKILL that will make me a good or bad instructor, not so much my personality.
When people criticize you, they usually attack who you are as a person, don't they? When they criticize you, they talk more about your personality and less about what could actually make you better at what you do. This is destructive criticism and this kind of criticism should be ignored.
Remember that what makes all of us different is our personality. When you attack someone's personality, you are destroying who they are. When someone attacks your personality, they are tearing you down so you could be something that you are not.
Back in college, I wrote a history research paper, and the professor didn't like my style. He called several of us students into his office to evaluate our papers and he used another student's paper as a guideline for what he was looking for. He criticized one student's paper because she was being creative. "And I hate that!" he said. When he got to my paper, he said, "And yours was just weird! It was like you were having a conversation with me." The student who wrote the paper that he did like was dry, point-blank, and void of any personality. This was the kind of paper he liked, and he made copies of this paper to give to us.
I was a bit angry. I mean, I have given him all the information he wanted. He didn't judge any of us based on the information, but based on our presentation of this information. In other words, he wasn't trying to make me into a better writer or researcher: he was trying to make me less of who I was so I could look like somebody else.
By the way, I did enjoy this professor's class and he was a cool guy -- so no ill feelings about him.
Another time when I was leading songs in a church in Texas, one woman approached me and said, "I think you made service tonight to be about Aiyo." And then she apologetically asked, as if seeking my approval for her critique, "Is that all right?" I still don't know what I did wrong! I led singing, using the gifts God gave me, and had fun with it, but someone interpreted my actions as trying to put the spotlight on me.
You know, there have been plenty of times when my personality was attacked. If I preach, I preach with humor. If I make a class presentation, I do it with enthusiasm. If I write, I want to inspire -- even though my e-mails are quite long. Just ask my wife! She still has a love letter from me while we were dating that she hasn't finished reading yet!
I bet plenty of you have had your personality attacked, and you were led to believe that you were receiving constructive criticism. Let me tell you that the only constructive criticism is the criticism that makes you MORE of who you are. Let's improve your skills so you could better show the world who you are!
Now, let's be honest: some of us have criticized other people's personalities. Someone is too silly, too serious, too relaxed, too tensed, too zealous, too passive. And yes, we have attempted to change that person to be more like us.
When teaching ZUMBA, I get silly! Other instructors may be a bit more serious. Others may be a bit childish. Others may be a bit militant. I have to discipline myself to not judge an instructor because he or she is not like me. That instructor has a style that appeals to one set of people, and would repulse another set of people. In the same way, I have a personality that appeals to some and repulse others. My job is not to appeal to everybody, especially since there is a ZUMBA instructor for everybody.
So, whenever I ask for feedback for my class, I am always SPECIFIC in what I'm asking for. I don't care for any criticism on my personality. I am who I am, and if someone has a problem with it, then they could find another instructor. Same thing for you: if somebody has a problem with who you are, they could look elsewhere for someone else.
One time, I told a fitness instructor that when she is asking for feedback, don't be general about it. Don't ask, "What didn't you like" or "What could I do to make class better?" No, be specific so that your personality is not attacked.
Now, don't confused "etiquette ignorance" with "bad personality." A funny person who doesn't know when to keep his or her mouth closed has etiquette ignorance. There is nothing wrong with this person's personality. This person needs to work on his or her social skills. Or a calm, reserved person who is just extremely shy needs work on social skills -- being too shy could be a problem in your life. There is nothing wrong with being reserved, which is your personality.
Keep in mind that everybody is different because of personalities. NEVER attack someone's character: it is what they were wired to be. NEVER let anyone attack your character. If your skills aren't put into questioning, then there is nothing worth criticizing.
Sometimes, we get too happy to be critical. We take criticism on a whole new level. Criticism should be kept relevant, but we don't keep it relevant. We criticize anything that we don't like, and if we keep criticizing in that manner, then we would find it difficult to find anything that pleases us.
Appreciate the diversity in all personalities. Don't criticize the person. Criticize the action. Don't fault someone because he's too laid back. Criticize him because he procrastinated on a project. Don't fault someone because she's too serious. Criticize her because she makes other people feel as if they aren't important.
When someone criticizes you, filter their critiques of your actions from their critiques of your personality. If someone doesn't want you because of who you are, don't get mad. Just keep moving. If someone criticizes your skills, don't take that as an attack on your character. Just improve your skills so you could better show everybody who you are.
More and more, I am starting to believe that we have all been given different assignments in life. All of us have been placed in various areas of life and we truly cannot explain why we are in these places.
For instance, I have had the privilege of being born and raised in New York City. I've had the privilege of living there rent-free. I've traveled around the city, seen many of the tourist sites such as Times Square, Statue of Liberty, Ground Zero, and the Metropolitan Museum of Art. I road on the trains and in the taxi cabs, seen celebrities, got flashed by a woman, and had about 10 police officers ready to pounce on me because they thought I was somebody else. Yep, I've lived up New York City!
However, you have other people who cannot even get into the city to live because they are just in no place to do it. They are probably stuck in a small, rural town and they can't leave it. They may dream and dream about living in the big city, but for now, they just don't have any opportunity to do so.
Why is it that some people could get something so easily while other people have to work so hard for it and still not get it? Why is it that some people seem "lucky" while other people seem to have it bad? Why is it that some people seem to live the dream life while other people are just struggling to survive? Some people say that you just have to work hard for what you want.
I say that other people are given different assignments in life. You have your assignment, and somebody else has their assignment. Our problem is trying to get somebody else's assignment instead of focusing on the assignment we've been given.
For the longest time, I wanted to go back to Texas. I absolutely loved that state -- as dry and dusty as it is. I loved the culture, the people, and the experience that I had when I was living in Abilene, Texas. After going back to New York, one of my goals was to go back to Texas. However, there have never been any opportunities for me to go. So, I was stuck in New York City.
I've constantly tried to leave New York City, trying to find jobs in Florida, Virginia, Maryland, Pennsylvania, etc. But the one opportunity that I was given to leave New York was in North Carolina, and my wife and I were easily able to do that without any problems.
After coming to North Carolina, our first few years were a bit rocky -- financially. We started dreading this state and tried looking elsewhere to live: Florida, South Carolina....Texas. But nope, all those doors were closed for us. Going back to New York wasn't an option. We were stuck in North Carolina. However, the longer we lived here, the better things have gotten for us to the point where we had no desire to move anywhere else.
Judging from all the good things that have happened to us here and the impact we are making on those around us, I believe that our assignment is here in Raleigh, North Carolina. Until we are re-assigned somewhere else, we aren't focusing on leaving.
In the same way, you have been given an assignment in life. That assignment might seem dreadful at first, but if you focus on this assignment instead of someone else's assignment, you'd start seeing more opportunities that assignment is giving you.
For instance, nobody wants to be poor. I didn't wake up in the morning thinking, "Man, I can't wait to be poor!" But that was what my wife and I were in those first few years in North Carolina. Poor! We didn't act like it, and we didn't look like it.
During our poverty, we learned how to be resourceful -- very, very resourceful. Our children were homeschooled, so there was no need to burn gas to take them to school. My wife learned how to save a ton of money on groceries to the point where she would bring home bags and bags of food for a FRACTION of the cost. I learned how to work on my own cars and saved thousands of dollars in car repairs. We are growing a successful garden where we have not only eaten our own food, but have given food away. We had to ask for financial help several times, but we were never on welfare. In fact, we were a part of the WIC program for a short time -- but because my wife was so good at saving money on groceries, we just gave up the WIC program.
Now, think about how many people we could bless by teaching them how to do the same thing that we did to survive? Had we had the assignment where we were living the "good life," we would be of no use to those who are poor. How could you teach poor people to be resourceful if you never had to be resourceful in your life?
If at any point I need to get a job, I don't need to look for the highest paying job. I could get a job that is just above the minimum wage and know how to make it work. That gives me more options than somebody who needs to make $20 an hour.
At my old school, two high school students were commenting about how resourceful I was as a physical education teacher. We had a SEVERE lack of gym equipment, but we used tires, cinder blocks, a tree to do pull-ups on, heavy picnic tables for the kids to lift, and lots of space for them to run. I had students push cars, push dumpsters, and I have even created a very popular game using a basketball and used tires -- and it was a HIT at the school. I started to not want any gym equipment because I was doing so well with the stuff I already had.
You see, while your assignment doesn't seem attractive, it still offers you opportunities to excel in life in ways that other people cannot excel in.
Can a millionaire who never had to struggle in life learn to live on less than $2,000 a month? Heck, for some of you, that's your mortgage and you'd spend that money without batting an eye! He cannot excel in this because he never had to do it.
Can a healthy person teach a sick person how to be healthy? For the most part, NO. I can't teach you how to be healthy, because I always had great health. My health allowed me to excel in fitness. I never had high blood pressure, diabetes, gastrointestinal issues, etc. This is not the case for some of you. Some of you had to learn ON YOUR OWN how to make yourself healthy -- and you would be able to help other sick folks who are in your position to get healthy. I didn't have the assignment to be sick all my life. Maybe you have that assignment -- so look for the opportunities that assignment is giving you and excel!
You need to stop waking up in the morning wishing you had somebody else's assignment. Listen, no matter how good that other person has it, he WILL go through problems. "Lucky" people have problems, too, you know. They would probably have problems that you wouldn't have to deal with -- nor would you want to deal with those problems!
Every assignment in life comes with blessings and cursings. There is NO assignment in life that you could have that would guarantee a problem-free life. The main purpose of your assignment is to contribute to the needs of those that you can help.
Have you ever watched the show "Chopped" on the Food Network? Each contestant is given particular ingredients to make a meal. Some of the ingredient combinations they are given is just odd! One time, I saw a show where contestants were given pig snouts! They can't complain about it. They have to excel in whatever ingredients they are given, and those who make the absolute BEST out of what they are given are rewarded.
For you, make the absolute BEST of what you've been given. It would be nice to have somebody else's assignment, but you don't have their assignment. You have yours. Excel in it until you are re-assigned somewhere in life.
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