How many of you have told yourselves that you would be happy if only you had a certain thing, or if something in particular happened? If only you had a job, you'd be happy. If only you had a husband/wife, your life would be complete. If only you could lose weight, you'd be at peace with yourself.
Well, stop thinking that way. If you postpone your happiness until you hit a certain jack pot in your life, then your happiness would be temporary.
Think about children. When they're young, they are still learning the values of patience and being thankful for the little that they have. You have already given them the toy they wanted, and they are happy. But soon enough, they would see another toy that they must have and they would whine about not having that toy! Dang, I just got them a toy just two hours ago and they are already complaining about not having another toy!
Not all of us adults have out-grown that childish behavior. We still base our happiness on external things. We won't be happy until we have money in the bank, a diamond on our finger, a new car, a better job, or a bigger house. Until we get things that we want, we won't be happy.
If your happiness is dependent on what you get, then you'd be happy temporarily -- until you find something else to be miserable about.
You finally dropped 10 lbs! You're happy! But...you still have 50 more pounds to lose and it seems that you're not losing any more weight! The scale numbers aren't budging! Guess what? You're miserable! You're so miserable that you gave up and gained those 10 lbs back!
You finally got the job you've wanted! You're happy! But you can't stand your co-workers. Now you're miserable and looking for another job.
You find the man of your dreams! You're happy! You get married. You're even happier! Six months later, his bad habits are sickening you! You two are having more and more disagreements. In two years, you're thinking about leaving him and finding someone else who could make you happy.
You have a new car! You're happy! The insurance and property tax on the car are high. With the addition of the car payments, this car is draining your bank account. You're miserable! Now you have to sell this car and downgrade to a used car. Speaking of...
You get a used car. You're happy! But then this used car has a few mechanical issues and you have no warranty. You're miserable!
Basing your happiness on external things is like building your house on mud. When the ground gets wet, your house will fall. In the same way, once the external things don't hold up anymore, your happiness would fall with those external things.
If you want to be happy, then you need to determine to be happy in your present situation with the things you already have. If you cannot be happy with the little that you have, don't expect eternal happiness when you do get the things you desire.
There are lottery winners who go broke in a few years after spending their millions on all the things they never had. Celebrities worth millions get in trouble with the law. Rich CEOs embezzle money from their companies. Those who lose weight put the weight back on. Happiness based on external things don't last long.
As mentioned in another blog, happiness is a CHOICE. It ought not be dependent on what you get. You could choose to be happy right now. Fat? Be happy! Fat and happy! Poor? Be happy! Unemployed? Be happy! Business is going slow? Be happy! If you want to be a generally happy person, then learn how to be happy with little and with much.
Think about it this way. If you were poor, got rich, and went poor again, guess what? At least you knew how to be happy while you were poor. Yes, it would be disappointing if you lost your riches, but at least you weren't dependent on those riches to make you happy.
Be happy! Be happy right now! And if something good happens in your life, then consider it a bonus!
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