Back in EMS, my partner and I had a big, intimidating patient who appeared unconscious when we've arrived on scene. Once we got him in the ambulance, the patient started getting wild! He was shouting as loudly as he can, and even though he wasn't getting physical with us, his large size and the volume of his voice were enough to make me want to run for my life!
I was about to leave the ambulance until I saw my partner standing over the patient demanding that he calm down. How foolish could he be??? Didn't he know that this patient could probably whip him???
While I could have left for my life, I disciplined myself to stay because I can't abandon my partner, even if what I thought my partner was doing was foolish. Besides, I stood near a portable, metal oxygen tank that I could use to knock the patient out.
Surprisingly, the patient was all bark and no bite -- and, man, was he barking loud! I calmly radioed 911 dispatch asking for police assistance, and about a minute later the fire fighters who were with us at first quickly returned to the scene with their flashing lights on. Then shortly afterwards, the cops came and everybody except me jumped in the back of the ambulance trying to restrain the patient.
Now question: what would have happened had I left my partner on the ambulance by himself? Well, let me ask this instead: what has happened since I didn't let fear control my actions? We had lots of help from both the fire department and the police department, a restrained patient, and nobody got hurt. Plus, I didn't get labeled a coward by my coworkers!
You will always experience fear, whether or not the fear is legitimate. However, you need to discipline yourself to make decisions based on logic, not based on fear. Making decisions because you were afraid may not bring you a good outcome. A decision that is actually thoughtful and unaffected by fear would produce good results.
Just imagine if the S.W.A.T. team didn't want to go into a hostage situation because everybody was afraid of getting killed? The criminals would win every time if the cops were afraid of doing their jobs! The reason we have so many criminals in jail is because we have brave men and women who didn't let fear drive their decisions.
There is something you are afraid of right now, and you're making decisions to support that fear. Let me ask you:
Just think, what if we made all of our decisions based on logic? What if emotions didn't influence the choices we made? What if I ignored how I felt and focused more on what I wanted? Where would you be right now if fear didn't stand in your way?
One of my biggest fears deals with finances. Between me and my wife, I would be the one to hesitate making a costly decision. I'd be the one to say, "We don't have the money right now." Where my wife sees investment, I see dollar signs. It's easy to make a money decision when you actually have money. But when money is short, fear could get in the way of making a potentially life-changing decision.
When my wife quit her job on such a short notice, it didn't feel good for me! She did it because she wanted to invest in her health. The job she had affected her health, and since leaving it, her health has changed for the better. Again, she saw investment. Me? I saw dollar signs...dollar signs that I won't be seeing since she left the job!
But now, I'm in the same boat. The job I have is affecting my health. I've lost over 10 lbs and I had no fat to lose! My strength has decreased, I'm getting more aches and pains, and I'm starting to get scared of lifting anything heavy. Plus, my sleep cycle is screwed up and my dandruff has been coming back due to a lack of antioxidants in my body. So, I have to make a decision: stay on the job and watch my body dwindle away, or leave it and trust that something better will come up. If I make a decision based on money, I might end up in the hospital. That is, if I make a decision based on FEAR, bad things are going to happen to me.
Keep in mind that there are always different roads to take to get what you want in life. Living on fear is a sure way of keeping you on a rough road that may or may not get you to where you want to be. Even if that road does get you what you ultimately want, your condition might be so bad that you'd wished you had chosen another path.
Fear is good when it keeps you safe. But when fear gets out of control, not only would it keep you safe, it would keep you VERY safe...so safe that you would eventually die (figuratively and literally speaking). Just imagine if I kept a plant locked in a closet where it won't have any pests or damage from the wind. The plant would die from lack of sunlight. In the same way, your fear could keep you in a closet where you would eventually die from the lack of LIFE.
Feel your fear...but don't act according to your fears. Whenever you feel fear, make yourself do the opposite.
Fear is not a good indicator that you shouldn't do something. Fear is based on the unknown. Fear is there to play it safe. Look past all that and focus on what you WANT, and the more you focus on your WANTS, the less power the fear would have over you.
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